Positive Parenting Blog

My Child Won't Listen To Me - What Can I Do? The first thing I ask parents when they present to parenting counselling with this issue is "What is your relationship with your child normally like?" It's important to understand if not listening is a usual behaviour (ie consistent with temperament), or whether it is a new behaviour (consistent with an issue). Depending on the answer, you will approach the listening in different ways. If a child not listening is normal When a child is regularly defiant, the first thing to ask yourself is whether the rules of the home are consistent and clear. Have you set clear boundaries and are you engaging in authoritative parenting - with warmth and consistency? If you are not engaging in consistent behaviour with clear consequences that are not scary and calmly presented , then this is the first place to start to make changes. With consistency and clear consequences, your child will find it easier to listen and behave.  The second t...