Positive Parenting Blog

Do You Ever Hate Being a Mother? I recently counselled a mother who whispered to me "I feel so bad, because I hate being a mother. I resent it every single day" . This poor mom was struggling emotionally and physically with the pressures of motherhood.  Now, as a therapist when someone begins a counselling session by saying they hate being a parent, the first thing we need to do is check that she feels safe and that she is confident her child/ren are safe too. This is really important, because being exhausted, stressed out, anxious and angry can make us behave in ways we would never dream of! Well on this front, thank Goodness, it was all OK.  The mother was not suffering from clinical depression and was not thinking of harming her child. However, she was feeling guilty 24/7 for hating being a mom.  How to Deal with Hating Being a Mom The first thing we did together was talk about HER. Where was she in her life? Had her life become laser focussed on her child and the purs...

Why Do I Find it So Hard to Keep My House Clean? Working Mothers Still Do Most of The Housework As much as mothers wish they didn't have to engage in so much housework, research tells us full-time working mothers are still carrying most of the load, compared to fathers. In a recent Gallup News Poll in the U.S. 49% of full-time working mothers stated they cleaned the home, compared to 38% of fathers and 52% of full-time working mothers did the laundry, compared to 32% of fathers. Source: Gullup News Poll    Prioritising the household tasks Being a busy mum can make prioritising housework a challenge at times. You may feel like you never really get on top of all the household duties and may be feeling a bit overwhelmed at this point.  But today is a new day. Make a decision that today you want to get organised and keep on top of the household chores. But where do you start? 5 easy Steps to keep your house clean Step 1: Making your household chor...